Not All The Guys...And Not All The Girls...!

I found out something today. I've heard people saying about it and of course as a girl I used to argue and disagree in that issue. But today I watched it by myself and I have to zip up my mouth and remain silent. Isn't it silence is a symbol of agreeing something? Yes...I agreed!

Its about LOVE...!

I met a friend of mine today for an appointment. We were college mates...not same batch...but same gang. He was my junior. When we got to know him, he was in love with a girl. They were school time lovers since he was in Form 5 and she was in Form 1. We've met her few times with him and once did a big drama to her family just to make both of them to meet up. Yes...sounds like Tamil movie rite! Few years later, we got to know that both of them had break-up after our college days. I don't want to talk about the reasons because that is not important here. But my friend had admitted that all was only his fault. 

After the days goes on, once a while we used to meet up. He always asked me to introduce any of my gal friends or asked me to intro him to them in the FB. I know he wasn't serious. Because he likes to tease other gals or likes to give tackling type of look whenever we go outing. Well that makes us laugh at him. He is very funny and kind of happy with his life. 

But what I found out today was he told me that he still can't forget her and regretting very much now and will be for his whole life. He told me she is married, with kid now. I was just listening to his stories and his past year memories. I couldn't speak anything so I was just listening. After had our dinner and lil chat we left the restaurant.

While driving back home something was playing and paused in my brain. Its about another friend of mine. She was a love failure from her 7 years old love whom the boyfriend had done a big betrayal to her. When I met her those days, she was crying and mumbling that she can't forget him, not going to marry anybody, can't think of any other man and so many 'NO's to men. A year later I found out that she met with someone and fall in love again. Then their relationship was not going that well...so they break-up. And again the same dialogue comes out from her...I meant that so many 'NO's. I was just quiet and was listening to her. I was trying to console her but it doesn't work out. At last I told her, "whether u remember or not, but you told me the same dialogue a year ago and you will be telling the same thing again if you break-up again...!" She stopped crying and was looking at me and gave a little smile. (believe me what I said to her had happened 2 months ago).

So the moral of the story is not all the guys who goes after gals and behave like Romeos are bad and cannot be trusted. And not all the girls who break-up with guys will never fall in love again or meet any men after that. If you see they are the one who will get married soon or will be walking with their new boyfriend in a month or two. The girls are looking for "love and security" the most. But the guys are looking for "secured love" foremost. I think that is why a girl's wounded heart is easily can be stitched then the guy's. Because it is easy to get love and security...but hard to get secured love!


*I have mentioned the words saying "not all the guys" and "not all the girls" in bold, underlined, coloured and italic so that I ensure that I'm not blaming all okay...its about "not all"...remember...!*