I've ever heard this conversation in between 2 gals.
gal 1: "what..? he is married for 2 years..? wow..! that's amazing!
gal 2: "ah..! let's wait and see..I bet they will be looking for lawyer soon.."
I paused for a while...thinking "is it that hard to hold a marriage for 2 years...? then what were our parents and grandparents were doing...?". Actually, I don't think so the gal's conversation was so offensive. They were very true. Divorce cases are widely happening at least to one couple in each moderate family.
What is divorce? It is final termination of marital union by canceling the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage. This is what written on Wikipedia. But for me the right definition would be "no love anymore", "parents forced", "doesn't like", "I've made a big mistake", or "avoid problems, misunderstanding and responsibility". So, these are the reasons that is given by most of the couples that I've seen in my real life. They are including arranged marriage couples and also love marriage couples.
Those days divorce is a word that could hardly hear in a family. If it happened in someone's life, it will be treated like 2nd ranking tragedy. That means the first ranking will be the death. Sure, it's gonna be a disaster for both families that involved. The reactions will be in a big scream "oh my god, you were given divorce?" then followed by cries. Then it will be like a whole world gone upside down for both husband and wife and their own family as well. The 2 families then will be ended up their relationship into enemy forever. And the divorcees will be treated like an alien among the relatives. Keep in your mind I'm talking about "those days" okay..let me emphasize it..."THOSE DAYS". (it was bolded, italic, and coloured...so do you see my way of emphasizing it..haha)
But when we talk about nowadays, divorce is nothing...! It could be happened at any time and to anybody, even to a 1-day old married couples. For them it is just a small signature on the legal paper, which will ended up "everything"...yes E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G! And the reaction from the family and friends (for nowadays) will be like, "you've made a good decision!", or the best I heard is "he/she is not the only guy/gal in this world..u deserves better one...!" and so on.
gal 1: "what..? he is married for 2 years..? wow..! that's amazing!
gal 2: "ah..! let's wait and see..I bet they will be looking for lawyer soon.."
I paused for a while...thinking "is it that hard to hold a marriage for 2 years...? then what were our parents and grandparents were doing...?". Actually, I don't think so the gal's conversation was so offensive. They were very true. Divorce cases are widely happening at least to one couple in each moderate family.
What is divorce? It is final termination of marital union by canceling the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage. This is what written on Wikipedia. But for me the right definition would be "no love anymore", "parents forced", "doesn't like", "I've made a big mistake", or "avoid problems, misunderstanding and responsibility". So, these are the reasons that is given by most of the couples that I've seen in my real life. They are including arranged marriage couples and also love marriage couples.
Those days divorce is a word that could hardly hear in a family. If it happened in someone's life, it will be treated like 2nd ranking tragedy. That means the first ranking will be the death. Sure, it's gonna be a disaster for both families that involved. The reactions will be in a big scream "oh my god, you were given divorce?" then followed by cries. Then it will be like a whole world gone upside down for both husband and wife and their own family as well. The 2 families then will be ended up their relationship into enemy forever. And the divorcees will be treated like an alien among the relatives. Keep in your mind I'm talking about "those days" okay..let me emphasize it..."THOSE DAYS". (it was bolded, italic, and coloured...so do you see my way of emphasizing it..haha)
But when we talk about nowadays, divorce is nothing...! It could be happened at any time and to anybody, even to a 1-day old married couples. For them it is just a small signature on the legal paper, which will ended up "everything"...yes E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G! And the reaction from the family and friends (for nowadays) will be like, "you've made a good decision!", or the best I heard is "he/she is not the only guy/gal in this world..u deserves better one...!" and so on.
But apart from all of this, there is one best thing will happen, where the couples who got divorced will become good friends and meet up in gatherings. Even it is more surprising when they introduce their new partner to their ex-spouse. So, divorce is nothing nowadays!
A divorcee is human beings too. They are not serial killers, rapist or drug addict! Being a divorcee or a widow/er or unmarried are only their marital status and not their characters. They still have their lifetime to love and be loved. It's not YOLO! Its YODO...you only die once.... but you live every day! So, live the life to the fullest.
A divorcee is human beings too. They are not serial killers, rapist or drug addict! Being a divorcee or a widow/er or unmarried are only their marital status and not their characters. They still have their lifetime to love and be loved. It's not YOLO! Its YODO...you only die once.... but you live every day! So, live the life to the fullest.
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